Monthly Archives: December 2021

Top of your list

After 10 years mentoring people there is a common struggle we work at addressing. Many work long hours and get things done to try to meet all their commitments or to get ahead. Increased choice and demands brings increased stress and more conflict between work and family life. This daily routine is overwhelming for many and becomes a ritual for survival. The World Health Organization reports on the debilitating effects of depression and anxiety. For a worker the challenge is to find ways to work smarter and not necessarily harder. Do these sound familiar?  I’m working longer and longer hours with mediocre results. I run all day long then collapse exhausted into bed at night. I’ve got no time or energy to exercise. There’s too little time and energy for the kids and for my partner. There’s not enough time to see my friends. All the spare time is taken up doing chores. On the True Believer growth ladder, we can see the worker gets things done but often feels time poor and struggles to stay well, maintain relationships and pay the bills. With all of life’s demands they often put themselves at the bottom of the list causing increasing stress, not only for themselves, but…

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A powerful way to design 2022

Writing down what we want is a powerful and respected success tip, but the words on their own don’t always deliver the desired result. Creating pictures to complement the words are where extraordinary results lie. Success pictures that matter help us to feel success in advance – feeling it in advance is a quality worth having. There’s a lot of truth to the saying ‘a picture is worth a thousand words’, as a picture creates a deep connection — it evokes an emotion and a pull towards the desired outcome. And this feeling can remain long after the written word is read or spoken. Creating pictures of what we want in advance allows us to be in success well before we actually become a success. This fun tool not only fast tracks our achievements but makes the journey all the more fulfilling. I have done this every year for 2 decades now and I’m about to create my new vision board for what I want to create, give and receive in 2022 – lots of peace, joy, love and freedom.                       Those who have ever reached a target or a goal but felt surprisingly unfulfilled and lacking motivation, who repeat this same rollercoaster routine for a lifetime, may find…

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Reflecting on the year that was

Even though we don’t want to live in or dwell in the past, before leaping forward into 2022 don’t miss a crucial step taken by the highly successful and fulfilled. It’s time to reflect on the past, as this is where little clues lie that have a big impact on creating memories worth holding onto. What are your clues from the past? Spend some time writing down what you have learnt from the past year. Then we are truly ready to expire the old stuff, the stuff we no longer need. Like any great structure, the foundations must be strong. We have patterns of behaviour — some serve us and some don’t.  The solution is to ramp up those behaviour patterns that serve us and sever those that don’t. We can exist almost unconsciously— unaware of how our actions are knitted into patterns. Consider the last year carefully and become aware of how your behaviours have affected you in the following areas:  mentally  emotionally  psychologically  physically  financially.  Recall times when you were fulfilled, feeling motivated, purposeful and moving in the right direction. What were the patterns or habits you had then? Do you still have them? Mark out the tough times — what were your patterns…

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Conviction is the fuel

When our values and our passion are congruent they become the fuel for our conviction. And our why matters when it comes to conviction. Conviction comes from alignment with our values. How much conviction do you have towards living a life according to your values? Conviction can sometimes be seen as impatience. Impatience is often criticised rather than praised, but I believe it’s an admirable quality when it’s for the right reasons. When we are impatient and driven towards the things we value, this restlessness may be just what’s needed to bridge the gap between where we are currently and where we want to be. Dr Russ Harris, writes in The Reality Slap: On one side is the reality we have, and on the other is the reality we want. And the bigger the gap between those two realities, the more painful the feelings that will arise: envy, jealousy, fear, disappointment, shock, grief, sadness, anger, anxiety, outrage, dread, guilt, resentment; perhaps even hatred, despair or disgust. And, whereas the slap is usually over quickly, the gap can persist for days, weeks, months, years and even decades. We can’t be too patient as within the gap between where we are now and where we want to be lies much…

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