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How to react to failure

Any journey to success is about progress. But our progress relies heavily on the way we react to failure. Those that have reached success know it’s all about what you learn from your failures that matters. Thought leader Dr. Jason Fox in his book The Game Changer  helps us to think about motivation, progress and change with strategy and design. His fresh approach looks at how to solve any motivation challenge, to shift behaviour, shape culture and make clever happen. I love Jason’s thinking that success should never be the focus as it can create a culture of intolerance to failure. He shares that failure and mistakes are a necessary part of any exploration, innovation and improvement. And my favourite line from Jason’s book…progress is the only thing that matters. Perfection, productivity, efficiency – all of these are secondary. As parents we celebrate the joys and successes. Some days feel rewarding and truly successful, while some days it’s easy to feel defeated. When we understand that failure is a necessary part of any path of improvement we learn to be ok with the setbacks and to focus on the overall progress. Progress over perfection is the focus. Remember, failure is feedback and progress is the game! If you’re feeling a little fearful…

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Our internal environment

As we set out to create the life we want, why does change sometimes seem so difficult? Given there are no guarantees that change will be positive (or even possible) self-doubt and fear can creep in and convince us to bury our ideas. A decision to avoid change is a decision to impede our growth. To be a leader of change takes conviction, commitment and courage. We often face loneliness as we disrupt the status quo. We may identify that we have invested our time and resources in habits that no longer support us. We learn that the hard and painful changes – the growing pains – are the path to our greatest rewards. We may think a change is necessary when we are no longer satisfied with the returns that were once present. However, before we leap in and toss out our routines, job, partner, house, friends and family we need to stop and be clear about what to change. Before we change our external environment; it’s best to look at the internal environment, as that may be all that needs a tweak or a shift in focus. Ignore the internal environment and there may be a life of time and energy spent navigating external…

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Show you care

There’s no denying there are many components to creating successful relationships. At the top of the list lies your ability to communicate well but also important is to communicate regularly. Successful relationships, those that are meaningful and sustainable, are built on quality, frequency and consistency. Without these you may be forgotten. Don’t be a stranger! Relationships take work. Many start well and build to a point where they flourish = success! Or they fold, with the parties becoming strangers. I know that my teams’ success, over my twelve years in real estate, was because of our frequent and consistent quality touch points with clients. Every seller received several touch points every week. How often we communicated with our clients was in direct proportion to our results when it came to listing, selling, referrals and repeat business. Have genuine care, don’t just show it once in a while, and be frequent and consistent. Add value to others and see the abundance that will surround you – in all areas of life. I can hear you thinking, “If only I had time to put into my relationships”. Well that’s an easy fix. In the work we do in private mentoring we teach that it’s not about having huge numbers of…

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Our reflection

Our relationships are a reflection of who we are – our attitude, values and decisions. Those we choose to surround ourselves with have a significant influence on our life. That being the case a great question to ask (and ask often) is “am I surrounded by those who reflect the best possible me?” According to the Law of Attraction – like attracts like. So if like energy attracts like energy it would make sense to be the person you want to attract. As Winston Churchill said, the optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty, attracting like-minded, winning attitudes. On the flip side remember, misery loves company and so often victims attract other victims in a high-energy, powerful but not so attractive world of drama. And being surrounded by many does not guarantee you have attracted the right people. Look around – who are you keeping company with? Is your energy attracting the right energy? And a final thought. It’s best to love the one you’re with first – that’s you! So work on making your reflection beautiful to you because there’s nothing more attractive than someone happy in her or his own skin. Then, before too long and without much effort you will attract crowds of similarly happy and…

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Stop hiding

Being authentic is a very attractive quality but sharing our true selves can leave us feeling exposed. It takes commitment and courage to be genuine. My advice is to embrace your uniqueness, take a risk, stand out and be the real deal! Why do we hide? For some, it’s easier, safer and more comfortable to put up a façade. Consciously or unconsciously we can be trying to live up to others expectations – whether those expectations actually exist or not! Comparing ourselves to and copying others is a no win situation. When we are trying to be someone else we lose what is special and unique about us. In the pursuit to be like others we lose our authenticity and become a counterfeit copy. An imitation is never as valuable as the real thing. Those who walk their own path are believable, trustworthy and stand out with uniqueness. And in a world of sameness and fitting in – that’s priceless! Decide what’s important to you – your values, your true north and be on your way. Here are some tips to be true: 1. Embrace your uniqueness – love you – warts and all!2. Don’t hide – live life to the fullest!3. Take a risk – be courageous…

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